Currently blogging at Kaizen group:

Hello,

I was recently asked why I was no longer blogging.

I am Still blogging, but I am running it from the more established and main company blog over at kaizen fitness group.

You can go to the blog here

Happiness.

I would like to share some thoughts on what it might mean to really change your moods.

 

An example might be when we feel pretty rotten one day and somebody comes to tell us to 'cheer up'.  Normally, if we really are upset about something, it can have the opposite effect.  It could make us angry or defensive or even more intent on being upset. Its not really a position of growth.

If, however, when we are feeling rotten somebody comes and asks us if we are ok; allows us to talk about what is making us feel rotten, and allow us to realise the place we are at without judging our mood; it can feel like a weight has been lifted and somehow our mood might elevate slightly or even greatly.  This could be more along the lines of growth.

Happier lives doesn't mean obliterating or forgetting the unhappier times, or denying we have challenging moments, it also doesn't mean we should focus so fully on it that we miss the beauty in our lives.  We need to treat ourselves in the same way as the person in the second example.  We should try to recognise our rough times, try to understand and release the problem rather than forcing the issue into a deep recess of our mental or physical make-up.   I hope that meditation can give you that space to be honest with yourself and allow you to grow.

UK Living

Hi, its been a while and although I haven't been here, I have been Twittering.

For those of you still not aware of the link yet I have 3 of the latest ones down the right side and a link to follow me there.

My recent return to the UK was interesting, every time on returning to Thailand there are many things I overlooked on previous visits, then coming back to the UK I am more pleasantly suprised to find some of the wonderful things overlooked while here.

Even when we are trying to be mindful it can be hard to appreciate all the good things going on around us.  They are there though, the grass can always be greener on this side if you look at it carefully.  Generalising things too much as saying one thing is 'good' and another might be 'bad' can effect how we think, but also influence those around us.  For a change try to spend one day smiling and only saying nice comments to people regardless of their response. (You can go back to normal the next day don't worry.) Later, as you become more comfortable with this you could try merely being present in a joyful way without making comment on things.  As the chatter calms you may notice the real beauty life has on offer.